Nothing goes hand in hand more than weddings and tradition. However, staunch though the wedding industry is, it hasn’t escaped millennial cultural shifts unscathed. Everything from vows and dresses to etiquette has been undergoing a slow modernization and the engagement party is one example of long-standing formality that is barely hanging on by a thread.
Many couples are ditching the engagement party altogether, making it ultimately more confusing for guests on the rare change they do get invited to one. As engagement parties have become less common, the etiquette around them has become muddled: what’s an appropriate gift, is a gift appropriate at all and should I sip on my champagne or is this a buck wild-style party? Unfortunately, Emily Post will not be able to help you out with this one. That’s ok, POSHGLAM is here to clear up your gift-giving, party-going qualms.
Historically, engagement parties were an opportunity to formally announce a couple’s engagement and introduce wedding guests to each other — basically a couple’s personal debutant ball. The reality today is Facebook is now the go-to social announcement platform for every major life event and bridal showers, bachelor/ette parties and stag & does now offer up plenty of opportunities for pre-nuptial mingling. Unfortunately, your traditional engagement party kind of misses the point when your social circle is already buzzing about your special news.
Don’t fret if you get invited to an engagement party, we’ve got a gift-giving guide to ease your struggle so you can focus your energy on picking the perfect dress instead. If you get the chance to attend an engagement party, don’t let it pass you by; it’s an opportunity to step back in time into an era of bygone luxury and formality that has almost evaporated from mainstream life. Engagement parties are a peek into the long-gone world of the gentry: extravagant floral arrangements, classical music, stunning gowns, courtship and ornate glam — and it’s exotic and enticing to exist in such a world, if only for an evening.
Remember, an engagement party has never been formally decreed as a gift-giving affair, so don’t be surprised if your fellow guests show up without an engagement party gift in tow. For those who want to show express their joy with a gift, try to think luxe and sophisticated, but financially understated; your engagement gift shouldn’t outdo your wedding gift. By the way, if the couple is on the ball they might have already begun building up their registry in anticipation of their engagement party, so Snapchat the happy bride-to-be to find out where she’s registered.
Luxe & Sophisticated Gift Ideas
1. Puzzle Piece Keychain
Lovers click together like pieces of a puzzle, and this custom engraved Couple’s Keychain set is a sleek yet adorable gift for the two love birds in your life bent on matrimony. The set is hand stamped with the couples’ names and an infinity sign to symbolize everlasting love.
2. Cashmere Matching Monogrammed Robes
A set of luxurious and comfortable cashmere personalized his and hers bathrobes from Mark And Graham is the unparalleled ultimate in loungewear. Even subscribers to the capsule wardrobe ideology will tell you amazing lougewear is a must-have for the home and the more the better.
3. Elegant Wedding Cake Servers
Help the couple prep for the big day by gifting them an elegant personalized Fifth Avenue cake serving set , available at Things Remembered. Intricate scrollworking and breathtaking crystal accents on the handles accompany stainless steel blades.
4. Champagne Toasting Flutes
A must-have for the wedding ceremony are unique his and hers champagne flutes, and what could be a greater engagement gift than a stylishly modern and monogrammed stemless set from Nordstrom.
5. Wedding Cake Forks
These I Do, Me Too Forks from Etsy seller Milk and Honey Luxuries are a unique hand stamped gift the couple is unlikely to get from anyone else. Set yourself apart from the crowd with this simple gift.
6. Leather-bound Inspirational Book
Inspire the to-be-wed couple with romantic passages from this Leather “Love” Book by Mark and Graham. The collection of quotes, passages and phrases, edited by B.C. Aronson, will help even the most writer-blocked couple draft their own personal vows.
7. Ipod Tripod
Taking DSLR quality photos on the honeymoon has never been easier than with a compact Iphone Zoom Lens + Tripod and travel bag. Paired with a camera self timer app the happy couple will be selfie happy, without having to count on unsuspecting strangers to capture their honeymoon moments.
8. Arrow To The Heart Wine Bottle Stopper
Like an arrow to the heart, this ceramic bottle stopper hits the gift sweet spot from Wedding gurus BHLDN. What a great way to say you’ve been struck by Cupid to the newly engaged.
9. XOXO Brass Tic-Tac-Toe
From Jonathan Adler, this XOXO brass tic-tac-toe game set is a great addition to the new home the engaged couple will be creating. Bonus: it’s versatile as a functional two-person game and a décor centrepiece.
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