So, you want to try online dating eh (POF.com)? We should preface this article buy saying that our tips probably aren’t for you if you’re looking for a quickie shag with a relative stranger. It may be a good time, but we’ll keep our dirty nocturnal secrets to ourselves; that’s for another time and another post our friends!
For most people, finding love online is kind of like shopping at ASOS: you pretty much put every size and style in your basket and hope for the best. You may bag the most magnificent jumpsuit known to mankind which makes your ass looks amazing, or be stuck with a bunch of s**t you just don’t need in your closet (i.e. your life). Online dating has compressed the world of men into a tiny pill that can be hard to swallow (did someone say swallow?). Having dabbled in some online dating ourselves, we are here to dispense some (hopefully) helpful insight to finding true love (or at the very least, one good date) online. Behold! The WAGs guide to online dating:
We don’t mean this in the generic way your grandma used to tell you when she caught you stuffing your bra age ten. We do mean be your most authentic self: whether this means not photoshopping your profile pictures to oblivion (Beyoncé’s thigh gap?), writing your profile according to what you think people want (those two packs of cigarettes in your bag doesn’t make you a light smoker) or showing up on your first date with a fabricated alter ego you think will be super awesome (when did your job as a primary school teacher become a fashion model strutting the cat walks of Milan!?). Be you! You can only live life as ‘pretend you’ for so long before the cracks will start to appear. Plus, wouldn’t it be nice (and so much easier) to be honest with a potential partner from day 1? No one likes a liar, fool!
It’s a numbers game:
Now, this may sound cynical – but the WAGs aren’t here coddle you like Julie Andrews from the Sound of Music. Now there are some lucky few out there who happen to find Mr. Right on their first date – if only the rest of us could be that lucky! Fact of the the matter is, you may think you’re a real catch and that your s**t don’t stink, but nothing good will ever happen from putting all your eggs in one basket from Date #1. Don’t be discouraged: it may take 4, 11 or 20 dates to find someone you really click with and that’s perfectly normal. Have a little faith, take that pre-date vodka shot, get that little black dress on and get your ass out there.
Don’t be nitpick:
Jason is perfect – gorgeous eyes, gorgeous bod and a killer profile. But alas…he’s a dog man and you’re considering adopting your third cat. Before you even think about tossing this guy into your e-trash, remember that you too are not perfect and might also not be every single thing someone is dreaming of. Have an open mind and remember that, like in real life, relationships are a give and take and rely on compromise. He may surprise you and be the ying to your yang or the milk to your Coco Puffs or….no more, you get the drift.
One last thing:
If, after giving it a good go, you’re just not feeling one with this whole online dating thing, don’t be afraid to admit it to yourself. It won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, and it takes courage to admit that too. Some people just prefer meeting their one and only the good ol’ fashioned way: intoxicated, sweaty and doing the robot at the office party.
May the gods of the world wide web be with you!
Contributed by the WAGs, Sophie and Aleks – Singaporean and American, two good friends with a penchant for making fools of themselves in public. Together they navigate living abroad, regularly hand out unsolicited advice on lifestyle, beauty and fashion and what it truly means to be a fabulous WAG. Check out their website, Like them on Facebook, follow them on Instagram and Twitter and watch them on YouTube…