Monday, July 20th, 2015


Emotional Affairs: Where Is The Line and When Is It Crossed?


The prevalence of social media and the mixing of our digital and physical lives has blurred the lines between what counts and what doesn’t when it comes to infidelity. This has many asking the question, “If there’s never a physical connection and it all happens online, is it still cheating?” With everything out there today, it is important to know where you draw the line and when enough is enough in our modern, increasingly digital age.

The issue has become big enough that even some sex researchers are beginning to treat the phenomenon of what’s coming to be known as “remote infidelity.” The Washington Post cited a study by Indiana University that looks into the use of technology by people in relationships to engage in outside romantic pursuits. The results found that many of those surveyed keep in touch with “back-up” partners and most have romantic or sexual interactions with at least two people in addition to their significant other. A similar study on cheating found that 74 percent of men and 68 percent of women surveyed said that they would have an affair if they knew that they wouldn’t be caught. With resources like Tinder and Snapchat at their disposal, more people are beginning to take the gamble.

However, some have made the argument that while certain nuances of the dynamic have changed, there’s really nothing new going on here. Many have noted that emotional infidelity has been around forever in the guise of unrealized impulses and discreet flirtations without the additional ease (or in some cases evidence) of technology. While new advances have definitely made it easier to sneak around it has also made it much easier to be caught with a longer paper trail that can be much more difficult to dispose of.

A study on relationships from Purdue University found that three of the main factors keeping a relationship going are overall satisfaction, emotional investment, and the availability of alternative partners. But the plethora of online dating sites and hook-up apps may do more to remind people of the options around them as opposed to actually inspiring anyone to step out on their partners. However, the “look but don’t touch” policy isn’t always applicable, especially when you can do so much without touching right on your phone. A New York Times column suggests that the anonymity of online encounters allows for behaviors people would typically avoid and that because there was no physical encounter, they weren’t unfaithful. But many find the emotional betrayal even more upsetting.

While there are plenty of other inventions out there to help satisfy your paranoia, we don’t necessarily recommend going down that route. Too often, these can lead to greater resentment and even push relationships further apart as opposed to bringing them together. If you’re at a point where you think you’d need to invest in one of these services, you’d probably be better off coming clean with your partner and asking them outright as opposed to basically hiring a digital private detective.

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Tuesday, June 30th, 2015

Love, POSHGLAM, Travel

Summer Travel – Dreaming on Jet, Check Your Beau

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Jet-set-chic dreaming and wondering where to go? I’ve considered a place or two. It’s funny how, when warm weather hits you float into the realm of daydreams and destination fairy tales. Not so fast, not every destination is a bonafide fairy tale. A vacation is always a great frame of reference turning ordinary thoughts into adventurous rendezvous. It’s important to keep in mind travel friends may not be everyday friends, though the man that can go the extra mile in style is a keeper. That may be the difference between friends you travel with an that handsome man-friend that carries you away and your luggage too.

They say you don’t really know someone until you are business or in bed — let’s substitute, on vacation and can’t catch a cab. That moment when the tension turns to tantrum will really test your ride or die, whether you ride or actually die. So what my dear, am I getting at? If you want to test the limits, there’s nothing like stuck in an overseas plane, transit or dare I bus, with BO and no where to uh go! Before you start venturing out with every Tom, Harry and rather large Dick that can afford a flight, These are my Summer vacation tips, to try your best to live by:

1) Know Your Beau — Don’t travel with that dude you met last night at the bar

2) Test the Waters — If you are going to take a trip, try a break first…a night at a hotel in your city

3) Don’t over Glamorize — If he’s funny acting here, or there, he will be funnier eslewhere

4) Money or Meals — Test him when there’s money involved or when he’s hungry before hopping on a plane across the world

5) Have your own Stash — Whatever you don’t don’t let him pay for everything, or you will be paying in another way (dare I say middle of the night-mare)

These are my quick and POSHGLAMorous tips for conjuring up a quick vacation with that guy you’ve been heart throbbing, don’t loose your cool and add to this short list, before things get hot!

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Monday, June 1st, 2015

Fun, Love, POSHGLAM Feature: 10 Signs You Are the Crazy-Ex

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You might be justifying all of that Facebook stalking, the late-night texts, the lengthy emails and anonymous phone calls to his new girlfriend (who you’re pretty sure he met while you were still dating), but have you gone too far? Have your friends been subtly hinting that you might be heading into crazy territory?

We’re sharing 10 signs you might be “That Crazy Ex-Bitch” from

1)  You think about him all the time

When you’re thinking about your ex to the extent that these thoughts are interfering with your day-to-day life, he’s become your focus, notes April Masini, author and relationship expert at He shouldn’t be your focus — you should be your focus. “It’s understandable that breaking up requires a transition period, but after a few months, these thoughts should taper off, and you should focus more on what’s in front of you that’s possible, and not on what’s behind you,” she advises.

2) You still have him on Facebook, Twitter, etc.

Following a breakup, it’s a good idea to cut social media ties with an ex. If you haven’t, you’re likely still too attached. “You’re going to be tortured by his presence on your social media, especially when he starts dating,” says Masini. “You won’t be able to enjoy your social media friends and contacts when you’re always clicking on his information.”

3) You stalk him regularly on social media

As Masini tells us, keeping your ex on Facebook or similar can easily lead to stalking. The information is readily available and oh-so-tempting to pore over again and again. But, she warns that you won’t get the whole story behind the photos or the tweets, just enough to lure you in and get you addicted: “Stalking means you’ve given up your power and you’re investing it in a failed relationship.”

True story: For about six months after my last breakup, the first thing I did every morning, even before coffee, was check my ex’s Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Finally my best friend came over and deleted him from all platforms to save my sanity. I love her for it. Rochelle, 28

4) You ask his friends about him

Continuously asking his friends or your mutual friends for information about your ex is a mistake and a big step into crazy ex territory. “Before you know it, you’re going to get a reputation, and you’ll start noticing your invitations are dissipating,” says Masini. “If you can’t stop asking or wondering, make new friends who don’t know him,” she advises.

True story: I convinced myself it was better to ask about my ex than not talk about him because I thought it made me seem like I was more over it. But really I just ended up sounding like a broken record and if I’m honest, a bit of a stalker. Anonymous

5) You frequent places you might see him

Do yourself (and your dignity) a favor and stay away from places you know he’ll be. “As soon as he realizes you’re following him, or worse, showing up at his haunts before he even gets there, he’s going to eventually find new places to hang out and you’ll be out of the loop,” warns Masini. She suggests using the breakup as an opportunity to find a better gym, a better coffee shop and a better dog park.

True story: I was so intent on seeing my ex I joined his gym. Big mistake. It was so awkward every time I saw him I could never concentrate on my workouts and I quit a month later.Deanna, 25

6) You still have all the things he gave you

Still have all his stuff? It’s time to purge. “Keeping a shrine to your ex by maintaining a box of his stuff long after you’ve broken up with him is going to be weird at best, and obsessive at worst,” Masini says. It also keeps you anchored in the past. She recommends getting his stuff together and mailing it back to him, his mom or donating it to Goodwill.

7) You text and email him

Women who chase men lose out, Masini says. And guess what? Texting, emailing and calling him count as chasing him — especially when you’re initiating the chase, she explains: “I’ve heard from loads of women who justify doing this, but in the end, it catches up to them. If he’s your ex, that means he’s going to sleep with you if you make it that easy, but he’s also going to be looking for relationships and sex elsewhere, too.”

8) You’re devising plans to get back together

People do reunite, but the circumstances need to be right and both people need to be ready. But, says Masini, if he’s changed the locks, is dating someone else, and you saw them perusing rings at the mall, chances are, no matter how elaborate a plan you’ve hatched, he’s moved on: “It takes two people to get together, and one to break up.”

9) You want to sabotage his new relationship

The problem with sabotage, as tempting as it is when you find out he’s dating someone else, is that you may end up driving him further away from you and more quickly into the arms of this new person. “You’ll get a short-term boost and a long-term let down. The best revenge is living well, and that’s a fact,” says Masini. “If you really want to make him second guess himself, go have a great life and be gracious and polite.”

True story: My friends and I spent so many hours and consumed many bottles of wine, hatching schemes of sabotage to scare off my ex’s new girlfriend. We never put any into action, but I’m still embarrassed I was so intent on breaking them up. Laurel, 32

10) Your friends are sick of hearing about him

You might be hung up on your ex, but eventually your friends aren’t going to want to hear about it. “You’ll know that your friends are sick of hearing about your ex because they’ll stop calling you, the calls they do make will be shorter, and you’ll be invited out less and less,” says Masini. “You’ll start hearing about fun times you weren’t included in because they didn’t want to hear tales of woe.”

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Tuesday, April 21st, 2015


Cribsheet for Online Dating @PlentyOfFish

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So, you want to try online dating eh ( We should preface this article buy saying that our tips probably aren’t for you if you’re looking for a quickie shag with a relative stranger. It may be a good time, but we’ll keep our dirty nocturnal secrets to ourselves; that’s for another time and another post our friends!

For most people, finding love online is kind of like shopping at ASOS: you pretty much put every size and style in your basket and hope for the best. You may bag the most magnificent jumpsuit known to mankind which makes your ass looks amazing, or be stuck with a bunch of s**t you just don’t need in your closet (i.e. your life). Online dating has compressed the world of men into a tiny pill that can be hard to swallow (did someone say swallow?). Having dabbled in some online dating ourselves, we are here to dispense some (hopefully) helpful insight to finding true love (or at the very least, one good date) online. Behold! The WAGs guide to online dating:

Be yourself:

We don’t mean this in the generic way your grandma used to tell you when she caught you stuffing your bra age ten. We do mean be your most authentic self: whether this means not photoshopping your profile pictures to oblivion (Beyoncé’s thigh gap?), writing your profile according to what you think people want (those two packs of cigarettes in your bag doesn’t make you a light smoker) or showing up on your first date with a fabricated alter ego you think will be super awesome (when did your job as a primary school teacher become a fashion model strutting the cat walks of Milan!?). Be you! You can only live life as ‘pretend you’ for so long before the cracks will start to appear. Plus, wouldn’t it be nice (and so much easier) to be honest with a potential partner from day 1? No one likes a liar, fool!

It’s a numbers game:

Now, this may sound cynical – but the WAGs aren’t here coddle you like Julie Andrews from the Sound of Music. Now there are some lucky few out there who happen to find Mr. Right on their first date – if only the rest of us could be that lucky! Fact of the the matter is, you may think you’re a real catch and that your s**t don’t stink, but nothing good will ever happen from putting all your eggs in one basket from Date #1. Don’t be discouraged: it may take 4, 11 or 20 dates to find someone you really click with and that’s perfectly normal. Have a little faith, take that pre-date vodka shot, get that little black dress on and get your ass out there.

Don’t be nitpick:

Jason is perfect – gorgeous eyes, gorgeous bod and a killer profile. But alas…he’s a dog man and you’re considering adopting your third cat. Before you even think about tossing this guy into your e-trash, remember that you too are not perfect and might also not be every single thing someone is dreaming of. Have an open mind and remember that, like in real life, relationships are a give and take and rely on compromise. He may surprise you and be the ying to your yang or the milk to your Coco Puffs or….no more, you get the drift.

One last thing:

If, after giving it a good go, you’re just not feeling one with this whole online dating thing, don’t be afraid to admit it to yourself. It won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, and it takes courage to admit that too. Some people just prefer meeting their one and only the good ol’ fashioned way: intoxicated, sweaty and doing the robot at the office party.
May the gods of the world wide web be with you!

Contributed by the WAGs, Sophie and Aleks – Singaporean and American, two good friends with a penchant for making fools of themselves in public. Together they navigate living abroad, regularly hand out unsolicited advice on lifestyle, beauty and fashion and what it truly means to be a fabulous WAG. Check out their website, Like them on Facebook, follow them on Instagram and Twitter and watch them on YouTube

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Thursday, April 2nd, 2015


Chris Collins Exclusive: The Categories Men Put Women In, and How You Can Move Between

Model Chris Collins

There is a notion that when a man meets a woman, he can immediately put her in a category where he sees that woman playing a role in is life. And I’m here to tell you it’s true….to a certain extent. Now this may seem a bit harsh, but as a man I don’t think we purposely do this. Wait, let me take that back, we completely know that we’re doing when we do this. I just think this is the only way men can make sense out of their relationships with the very intricate and complex, yet magnificent and precious treasure that a woman is. Now that I’ve buttered you up, here’s how it goes.

There are four main categories that men place women in upon meeting them. There is the Girlfriend, the Sex Partner, the Best Friend, and last but not least the once in lifetime, love at first site, myth I’ve only read about in books or seen in movies but I think is completely probable…..the Wife. Now I’m sure there are thousands of sub-categories within the four I’ve mentioned, but to keep this as simple as possible we’ll just stick with these. Oh and there’s another point I need to make.  I’m assuming that the men I’m speaking about are single. If a man is married or in a relationship, well let’s just say that that’s a whole other fish to fry. This as you know can get extremely complicated.

Men are very animalistic in nature. Think of them as animals in the wild. If they see something that attracts them, they either want to kill it and eat it, or love it. Let’s just call this natural selection. Now unless this guy is a cannibal or a nut case, he will in most cases want to love it.  This brings me to my first category, the Sex Partner. Man and woman were created for each other for a sole purpose, and that is to mate and reproduce. And trust me when a man sees a woman from across the room or at a bar and says to himself, wow she’s hot, his headmost instinct is to grab her, rip her clothes off and mate. It could be her beauty, her smile, her style, etc. But whatever it is, that initial allure has sex written all over it. So even before you meet, before you say single word to each other, you have already been categorized as a sex partner.

Now at some point he will muster up the courage to come and talk to you about his plan to have sex with you until you both pass out from exhaustion. And at this point, here is where the real game begins. Within moments he will know if you will stay in that category of you being his sex partner for a little while. Or will there be something that happens during your interaction that suddenly moves you into another? That depends. It will be the difference between him saying, “So do you want to come to my place for a drink tonight” or, “can I have your number so I can take you to lunch tomorrow”. Her are the different scenarios that can ensue.

So now you meet, and he sees that you are just like him, maybe too much like him and maybe he wasn’t as into you as much as he thought he would be. He realizes you both love sports, cats, watching documentaries about veganism or whatever. You laugh and joke all night wondering how the time passed. And all of a sudden he forgets about how bad he wanted to jump your bones, and realizes how cool you are. All he wants to do is hang out with you, grab a beer or do something together that you both have in common. You my dear have now been put in the category of a Best Friend. But hold on, before we go any further. I have a theory about men and women being “best friends”. If one or both of the participants in this friendship is attractive, this friendship will never work. Especially since you two met initially through that attraction. It will always end up one day with one of you crying and confessing how you always loved the other person for years and couldn’t hold it in anymore. Or after a fun night of drinking a laugh turns into a kiss and you both wake up the next morning in bed wondering what the hell just happened. In that case either the friendship ends or you slip effortlessly into the category of either the sex partner, the girlfriend and maybe even one day his wife!! That’ll be a funny story for a wedding speech.

Ok, back the point. Let’s rewind a bit and talk about that initial interaction again. So now when you meet, you blow him away with your wit and your charm. He realizes you are smart and funny with good values, great career, etc. Every box on his continuously changing punch list is checked. This makes you even more beautiful than he thought. He sees, that at least from your initial meeting that you are the girl that he’s been waiting to meet in is unsuccessful quest for companionship. You are now in the category of Girl Friend.  Your goin home to momma!!

And last but not least, the category of Wife. As legend has it, there are some encounters that are Godly and upon meeting a woman you know in that second that she is your wife. I’ve never experienced this yet, but I’m assuming that this is what it would feel like. “When I meet you everything in the room disappears. There is a glow around you, and my heart feels like it’s going to beat out of my chest. Every word you say, sounds like a symphony of Mozart. I look into your eyes and I see your soul. I feel you. You ask, “why are you staring at me like that”, and I’m thinking because all I can do is imagine you playing with our children in our yard. I’m already checking the ring of  your first name with my last. I completely lose time. I’ve known you all my life. You are my Wife”. Wow, what an image!

One very important thing to keep in mind, is that it is very easy to slip in and out and back and forth between these categories. What you imagined in the beginning may not be. Life is funny in the way things turn out sometime. The woman you believed to be your wife may end up being the girlfriend you let get away. Or the sex partner you imagined became the best friend because the your sexual connection was terrible. But trust me, they do exist. You just never know which one you will start or where you will ultimately end up.

Chris Collins a model for Ralph Lauren for 16 years is not your average model. Beyond his looks, and his charm, he’s smart. With degrees in Biology and psychology, planning to be a Doctor later in life, he will soon be using his intelligence and influence on his own platform, as a journalist.  This piece is a sampling of his work and his creation of the long awaited….Chris Collins Report!

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