When we think of legendary sex icons, our minds are automatically directed to figures such as Marilyn Monroe, Mae West, Betty Grable, Brigitte Bardot, Sophia Loren, and more modern day women such as Angelina Jolie, Megan Fox, Eva Mendes, Salli Richardson and the lady that made the 80’s—Madonna.
Those bitches! What is it about the aforementioned that makes men crazy? Is it their beauty? Their bodies? Their talent? Nah. What makes men crazy, is the “it” factor. They say, (whoever “they” is)… that you’ve either got IT, or you don’t. So what exactly comprises “IT”?
Sophia Loren once said, “Sex appeal is 50% what you’ve got, and 50% what people think you’ve got.” Maybe you’re reading this with a raised eyebrow, and that’s part of the problem. Blending in might be what makes you feel comfortable, but don’t get it twisted—even the most demure of women have the IT-factor, and certainly stand out.
The level of sex appeal you exude doesn’t start in the mirror—as much as this has been pounded into your brain. It’s in the way you carry yourself—a quiet confidence that will instantly spark his interest. It’s about the way you move…walk…sip your drink. Keep in mind that men are very visual beings, and your body language speaks volumes without you ever muttering a single word.
Smile a lot; make eye contact—but never stare. If you see a guy in the distance that you are interested in talking to, make eye contact, smile, and look away. Continue whatever conversation you are in the middle of, then discreetly make eye contact once again, and again, look away. Now he has the “okay”. We must remember, it takes a lot of guts to be a guy. Working up the nerve to talk to a girl is not the easiest thing. Everyone fears rejection, especially men. With this simple gesture, you are telling him it is okay for him to approach you, without making you look desperate or overly interested.
Just like you, guys like to be around girls that are easy to talk to, but who listen and who seem interested in what they have to say. If he cracks a joke—laugh! Guys love a laid back and positive atmosphere. Don’t delve into deep personal details or bitch/complain right off the bat. No one likes a Debbie Downer, and trust me, the last thing any guy wants to listen to (or anyone for that matter) is a sob story. Let him warm up to you, and likewise, you to him.
Follow his lead. Allow him to be the man, but at the same time, don’t dumb yourself down or become overly giddy. Never try too hard, and never put it all out there (this rule also applies to the way you dress). Make him work a little bit! The key is to always to leave him wanting more. Even if you think he is comparable to Brad Pitt, let him chase you! Guys love a challenge, so give him one.
Keep up on your appearance, but above all, mind your inner-swag. If you walk in like you own the place, you will. It’s like having a fantastic secret with yourself, keep ‘em guessing! The “IT” factor is simple really—allow yourself to shine from the inside out, and he will see you for the diamond that you are!