Another person asked me: “Why don’t you Style Blog?”, Answer: Isn’t that fake modeling? I love emerging designers, happen to prefer them over most name brands. When I started POSHGLAM, I never considered “Fake Modeling”. Though I’ve been a signed model throughout the 9 years I’ve run the site, it just dawned on me: I don’t use my image much. There are tons of pretty girls, with NYC being the US Fashion capital and the Beauty Capital I never really considered toting a tripod and a photographer beau. Newsflash: I’m considering attending more red carpet events, debuting my likeness as more of a fashion icon. Until then, it’s me, behind the lens acting as a POWERHOUSE CEO or future reality star. See treatment
So, you want to try online dating eh (POF.com)? We should preface this article buy saying that our tips probably aren’t for you if you’re looking for a quickie shag with a relative stranger. It may be a good time, but we’ll keep our dirty nocturnal secrets to ourselves; that’s for another time and another post our friends!
For most people, finding love online is kind of like shopping at ASOS: you pretty much put every size and style in your basket and hope for the best. You may bag the most magnificent jumpsuit known to mankind which makes your ass looks amazing, or be stuck with a bunch of s**t you just don’t need in your closet (i.e. your life). Online dating has compressed the world of men into a tiny pill that can be hard to swallow (did someone say swallow?). Having dabbled in some online dating ourselves, we are here to dispense some (hopefully) helpful insight to finding true love (or at the very least, one good date) online. Behold! The WAGs guide to online dating:
We don’t mean this in the generic way your grandma used to tell you when she caught you stuffing your bra age ten. We do mean be your most authentic self: whether this means not photoshopping your profile pictures to oblivion (Beyoncé’s thigh gap?), writing your profile according to what you think people want (those two packs of cigarettes in your bag doesn’t make you a light smoker) or showing up on your first date with a fabricated alter ego you think will be super awesome (when did your job as a primary school teacher become a fashion model strutting the cat walks of Milan!?). Be you! You can only live life as ‘pretend you’ for so long before the cracks will start to appear. Plus, wouldn’t it be nice (and so much easier) to be honest with a potential partner from day 1? No one likes a liar, fool!
It’s a numbers game:
Now, this may sound cynical – but the WAGs aren’t here coddle you like Julie Andrews from the Sound of Music. Now there are some lucky few out there who happen to find Mr. Right on their first date – if only the rest of us could be that lucky! Fact of the the matter is, you may think you’re a real catch and that your s**t don’t stink, but nothing good will ever happen from putting all your eggs in one basket from Date #1. Don’t be discouraged: it may take 4, 11 or 20 dates to find someone you really click with and that’s perfectly normal. Have a little faith, take that pre-date vodka shot, get that little black dress on and get your ass out there.
Don’t be nitpick:
Jason is perfect – gorgeous eyes, gorgeous bod and a killer profile. But alas…he’s a dog man and you’re considering adopting your third cat. Before you even think about tossing this guy into your e-trash, remember that you too are not perfect and might also not be every single thing someone is dreaming of. Have an open mind and remember that, like in real life, relationships are a give and take and rely on compromise. He may surprise you and be the ying to your yang or the milk to your Coco Puffs or….no more, you get the drift.
One last thing:
If, after giving it a good go, you’re just not feeling one with this whole online dating thing, don’t be afraid to admit it to yourself. It won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, and it takes courage to admit that too. Some people just prefer meeting their one and only the good ol’ fashioned way: intoxicated, sweaty and doing the robot at the office party.
May the gods of the world wide web be with you!
Contributed by the WAGs, Sophie and Aleks – Singaporean and American, two good friends with a penchant for making fools of themselves in public. Together they navigate living abroad, regularly hand out unsolicited advice on lifestyle, beauty and fashion and what it truly means to be a fabulous WAG. Check out their website, Like them on Facebook, follow them on Instagram and Twitter and watch them on YouTube…
There is a notion that when a man meets a woman, he can immediately put her in a category where he sees that woman playing a role in is life. And I’m here to tell you it’s true….to a certain extent. Now this may seem a bit harsh, but as a man I don’t think we purposely do this. Wait, let me take that back, we completely know that we’re doing when we do this. I just think this is the only way men can make sense out of their relationships with the very intricate and complex, yet magnificent and precious treasure that a woman is. Now that I’ve buttered you up, here’s how it goes.
There are four main categories that men place women in upon meeting them. There is the Girlfriend, the Sex Partner, the Best Friend, and last but not least the once in lifetime, love at first site, myth I’ve only read about in books or seen in movies but I think is completely probable…..the Wife. Now I’m sure there are thousands of sub-categories within the four I’ve mentioned, but to keep this as simple as possible we’ll just stick with these. Oh and there’s another point I need to make. I’m assuming that the men I’m speaking about are single. If a man is married or in a relationship, well let’s just say that that’s a whole other fish to fry. This as you know can get extremely complicated.
Men are very animalistic in nature. Think of them as animals in the wild. If they see something that attracts them, they either want to kill it and eat it, or love it. Let’s just call this natural selection. Now unless this guy is a cannibal or a nut case, he will in most cases want to love it. This brings me to my first category, the Sex Partner. Man and woman were created for each other for a sole purpose, and that is to mate and reproduce. And trust me when a man sees a woman from across the room or at a bar and says to himself, wow she’s hot, his headmost instinct is to grab her, rip her clothes off and mate. It could be her beauty, her smile, her style, etc. But whatever it is, that initial allure has sex written all over it. So even before you meet, before you say single word to each other, you have already been categorized as a sex partner.
Now at some point he will muster up the courage to come and talk to you about his plan to have sex with you until you both pass out from exhaustion. And at this point, here is where the real game begins. Within moments he will know if you will stay in that category of you being his sex partner for a little while. Or will there be something that happens during your interaction that suddenly moves you into another? That depends. It will be the difference between him saying, “So do you want to come to my place for a drink tonight” or, “can I have your number so I can take you to lunch tomorrow”. Her are the different scenarios that can ensue.
So now you meet, and he sees that you are just like him, maybe too much like him and maybe he wasn’t as into you as much as he thought he would be. He realizes you both love sports, cats, watching documentaries about veganism or whatever. You laugh and joke all night wondering how the time passed. And all of a sudden he forgets about how bad he wanted to jump your bones, and realizes how cool you are. All he wants to do is hang out with you, grab a beer or do something together that you both have in common. You my dear have now been put in the category of a Best Friend. But hold on, before we go any further. I have a theory about men and women being “best friends”. If one or both of the participants in this friendship is attractive, this friendship will never work. Especially since you two met initially through that attraction. It will always end up one day with one of you crying and confessing how you always loved the other person for years and couldn’t hold it in anymore. Or after a fun night of drinking a laugh turns into a kiss and you both wake up the next morning in bed wondering what the hell just happened. In that case either the friendship ends or you slip effortlessly into the category of either the sex partner, the girlfriend and maybe even one day his wife!! That’ll be a funny story for a wedding speech.
Ok, back the point. Let’s rewind a bit and talk about that initial interaction again. So now when you meet, you blow him away with your wit and your charm. He realizes you are smart and funny with good values, great career, etc. Every box on his continuously changing punch list is checked. This makes you even more beautiful than he thought. He sees, that at least from your initial meeting that you are the girl that he’s been waiting to meet in is unsuccessful quest for companionship. You are now in the category of Girl Friend. Your goin home to momma!!
And last but not least, the category of Wife. As legend has it, there are some encounters that are Godly and upon meeting a woman you know in that second that she is your wife. I’ve never experienced this yet, but I’m assuming that this is what it would feel like. “When I meet you everything in the room disappears. There is a glow around you, and my heart feels like it’s going to beat out of my chest. Every word you say, sounds like a symphony of Mozart. I look into your eyes and I see your soul. I feel you. You ask, “why are you staring at me like that”, and I’m thinking because all I can do is imagine you playing with our children in our yard. I’m already checking the ring of your first name with my last. I completely lose time. I’ve known you all my life. You are my Wife”. Wow, what an image!
One very important thing to keep in mind, is that it is very easy to slip in and out and back and forth between these categories. What you imagined in the beginning may not be. Life is funny in the way things turn out sometime. The woman you believed to be your wife may end up being the girlfriend you let get away. Or the sex partner you imagined became the best friend because the your sexual connection was terrible. But trust me, they do exist. You just never know which one you will start or where you will ultimately end up.
Chris Collins a model for Ralph Lauren for 16 years is not your average model. Beyond his looks, and his charm, he’s smart. With degrees in Biology and psychology, planning to be a Doctor later in life, he will soon be using his intelligence and influence on his own platform, as a journalist. This piece is a sampling of his work and his creation of the long awaited….Chris Collins Report!
Summer is the perfect time to re-think your wardrobe and try a totally new style. If you are about to start shopping for some summer essentials, you need some advice to help you choose the best pieces. This season is all about having fun with your current look, and so you must not take it too seriously. Instead, try out a few different trends and see what works for you. Here are some tips to help you look incredible all summer long.
Incorporate glitter into your outfit
A massive catwalk trend at the moment is glitter. You might think that sequins and glitter are for little girls, but not anymore. Now, all the top models out there are incorporating this fun and fresh element into their outfits. If you are feeling brave, you could get a full-length metallic dress. If you are a little more conservative in your sense of style, you might want to consider a sequin necklace. There are plenty of examples of this style on the high street right now, so you had better get shopping.
Since the summer is well and truly festive season, you need to embrace a bohemian style. Flowing dresses and tassels are seasonal favorites when it comes to day wear. Add a pair of designer sunglasses to complete the look and make sure that you look the part. This trend comes back each year, and every time it has a new twist. This year, the look is more eccentric than ever. You should not fear taking an experimental approach to this fashion. Find unique pieces from thrift stores to create an individual look.
Invest in a transitional day to night dress
When the weather is hot, you will likely spend all day and all night out having fun. If there is no time to change, you need a transitional dress that can take you from day to night, while still looking ultra chic. You can get a broad range of transitional style dresses online from Tuchuzy. Choose a piece in a neutral color that will go with most of your current accessories. That way, you can wear the dress all summer long without it clashing at all. Choose a cut that falls just above the knee so that it is ideal for hot weather.
Dress like a lady not a girl
This year, there has been a shift in emphasis towards how we dress. Ladylike fashion is back with a vengeance. That means that it is time to throw out cute floral dresses and opt for something a little more elegant. Look for sophisticated summer hats and killer shades. If you look at the major fashion retailers right now, they are all selling ladylike pieces. Try to combine both the bohemian and sophisticated trends to create a completely new look for yourself.
Get some stunning knee-high gladiators
Knee-high gladiators are a winning new trend, and this year there are a variety of styles. If you find it difficult to walk in heels, there are loads of low-heeled versions that you might like to try. The lace-up-look is popular at the moment, and so if you can get some leather gladiators or suede lace-ups, you will be on trend this season. Make sure that you have someone measure your feet before you buy an expensive pair of gladiators so that they fit like a glove around your legs.
Summer style is always colorful and bright. This season, look for pieces that suit your current wardrobe so that you look stylish and unique. When you find a look that suits you, you will feel like a superstar!
Do you love fashion? Lookng for ways to emphasize your taste? From New York to Paris, anyone can achieve a super chic look when they pay attention to certain details. Here are some incredible style secrets that will make you look and feel like a fashion queen:
Quality over quantity
Buying a whole wardrobe of Roberto Cavalli clothing isn’t affordable for most of us. However, when you are on a budget, stick to the mantra of quality over quantity as much as possible. It is far better to have a smaller wardrobe full of beautifully made and well-designed items that fit you perfectly, rather lots of clothing that is cheap and poor quality.
Look after your clothing
It follows from the point above that you should take great care of your garments. Well-pressed clothing will help you to achieve that chic look. Follow instructions for washing items to a T and always deal with stains, damage and other flaws immediately to avoid them getting any worse. Tailoring clothes without experience and skill can end in disaster, so always pay for professional services if you are at all unsure.
Copy your style heroes
If you lack fashion inspiration look to your style heroes for help. Your icons can be anyone from your Gaby Espino to your Mum. Don’t be afraid to borrow fashion and beauty styles from them. But do try to adapt them to suit your individual style and add touches of your personality where you can.
Dress for you
Do not have to be skinny to look chic. It’s all about getting to know your body shape and choosing clothes that flatter you. If you are small in height and curvy in shape, you are unlikely to suit long, straight styles. However, your body will look fantastic in open necklines and nipped waists. Take the time to get to know your body shape and what you feel comfortable in. You know what they say, if you feel great, you look great.
Stand up straight
Never underestimate what good posture can do for your overall look (and health). Slouching and hunched shoulders make you look and feel uncomfortable. Look at catwalk models. They always have impeccable posture. This makes them look strong and confident and means the beautiful clothes they are wearing hang on them perfectly. And this applies to you. There is no point spending lots of time creating chic ensembles if you are just going to slouch in them. It can be difficult to break posture habits, but try your best to remind yourself to tuck in your tummy, throw your shoulders back, and lift your head high.
Fashion is all about pushing boundaries and trying something new, so don’t be afraid to experiment with your ensembles. Mixing colors, patterns and textures can lead to much more interesting outfit. Looking at fashion blogs, websites and magazine will help to get your creative juices flowing.