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Wednesday, June 10th, 2015

New York City, POSHGLAM







Art, Hobbies & Happiness | New York Guitar

Jimi Hendrix

“This guitar I like the most”, said Robert O’Bryant, showing me a thoroughly polished “3-color sunburst”
Fender Stratocaster. There was a bright collection of plucked string instruments just in front of me. It was a unique feeling to see the entire wall covered with various string instruments. I thought that this man had almost every type of string instrument. Certainly, guitars were the main part of the Rob’s collection. Acoustic and electric, they had various shapes and colors. Beside guitars some other plucked string instruments was presented there such as one twelve-string guitar, also called “dreadnought”, two ukuleles and one banjo.

I first met O’Bryant when I began my freshman’s year at Berkeley College in Midtown Manhattan. We went to the same computer class. In those days, I just moved from Russia and wasn’t acquainted with many people in America and precisely in New York. So, having a desire to find some friends, I swiftly took notice of a 27-year-old man, who sits next to me during the computer class. He had a brown hair, a little curved nose, fashionable glasses and permanent light smile on his face. We didn’t talk much. This was the real problem for me. It was difficult to find a topic which might interest him. Every our conversation went to the stalemate. Therefore, my efforts to know Robert better were greatly hampered by his indifference.

Nevertheless, I was totally surprised when one day during my way home I saw Robert playing the guitar in the park. This park was located near my college’s campus. Every day this place gathers live music lovers from the whole neighborhood. If you ask me, I frequently came there just to listen for buskers. Although, I couldn’t even imagine that one day I would study in the same class with one of these street musicians.

The moment I saw him there I got closer to him and then sat at the nearby bench, listening to his play. It’s not enough to say that he knew how to play. Certainly, he was a professional. The way he played was mesmerizing. After he finished, I got closer to him and said,

“Hey. You play well. I’ve never thought you are this kind of person”

“Thanks.”

“Man, this is amazing. Personally I’ve been playing for five years but in comparison my play sucks.”

“Show what you can”, he told me. I took his guitar and played the beginning of the “Staircase to Heaven.”

“Well. I see. On the whole it’s good but your left and right arm are put wrong. Who taught you?”

“I learned to play the guitar by myself.”

“Then, I am not surprised. Listen, you seem a good hardworking guy. So, if you wanna play better, come to my place this weekends and I’ll teach you some basic stuff.”

Robert O’Bryant lived in a small village Rockville Centre, a part of Long Island. His two-story house was not far from the train station. The place where he lived was a typical American suburb neighborhood. There were several rows of the same looking houses. Although, after I had entered his place, I realized that it was not as similar to another houses as I previously though standing outside. His string instruments collection made the house distinctive.

Robert O’Bryant was born in a small town called Port Washington, Long island. There he spent much of his childhood years. Not having many friends, he preferred spending a majority of his free time in his father’s room. He became hooked on guitar when he was a child. His father had an old acoustic guitar which he used to play in his youth. This guitar was a favorite Robert’s thing. “Although, its neck was crooked, I adore playing this guitar. Of course, in those days it was not serious. I merely played random chords and made some simple cacophony. Nevertheless, my father didn’t mind me to play his guitar”, he said.

In the age of eleven Robert started playing the guitar seriously. Once, when Robert was going back from school, his attention drew a group of buskers who played near the fountain in the park. Every time he went back from school he preferred to drop in the park to watch street musicians. Especially, he enjoyed watching how guitarists played. His attention took every move of their fingers across the neck. He wanted to play like they did. So, once he asked one familiar musician whether he could teach him how to play. The busker, who knew Rob for two years, was amazed by his aspiration to study and didn’t take much money for the lessons. Since then Robert spent virtually all of his pocket money on his new hobby.

After several years Rob became a professional guitar player. He began playing in public in the nearby park, even though his family was against it. They thought that such performances were not a good hobby for a teenager and that their son had to concentrate on his studies. To solve this problem Robert tried to persuade his parents that playing the guitar is just his hobby; he was not going to become a professional busker. His parents believed him but still were in a little doubt.

Once, after returning home from the park, he saw an acoustic guitar that lies near the fence. He couldn’t help passing by. So, he took the guitar to his place. There he rubbed it and changed strings. “When I took care of this guitar it turned to other appearance; it was shining. So, then, I thought why people just throwing out instruments that can still work well. I was disappointed and thought that it would be nice to collect these instruments.”

Since then Robert became fond of collecting string instruments. When he moved to his own apartment he received more space for his collection. In his free time he was walking through the town and distributing paper ads which said “if you have broken and/or old instruments – call…” On the whole, he didn’t receive many phone calls but there were some which he made use of. For example, once he received a call from one man who bought a new guitar and wanted to get rid of an old one because he was frequently moving from one place to another; therefore, this person wished to have as less things as possible. So, Robert helped this man by buying his old guitar. Even though the guitar was in the appropriate condition, after Robert took care of it, the guitar started to look as it was new.

Apart from obtaining and repairing old broken guitar he was also buying some rare and famous guitar. For example, by 19 years he had already had such guitars as Gibson’s “Les Paul”, “V-401FM” by ESP and Gibson’s double neck “EDS-1275”. Although, Robert has never forgotten his first instrument.

“I bought my first guitar when I was twelve. My parents raised me in very strict conditions. So, I had to save money by myself. I worked as a delivery courier during the whole July. I was really happy when I finally bought a used surf green electric guitar made by Squire”, said Robert while looking at the wall. After a while he caught sight of something, approached the wall and took one of his guitars from the stand. “Here it is, my first guitar. It is an important one in my collection”, said Robert. He sat down on a stool, strapped the guitar to his body and, for a while, was tuning his old guitar. When he finished tuning it he asked me whether I want to listen to his play. I said, “Sure. Why not?!” He held a breath for a second and then started moving his long bony fingers along the neck, playing “While My Guitar Gently Weeps” and sometimes closing his eyes in the awe of bliss. I was motionlessly listening to his play. It was so beautiful that I can’t help applauding at the end, even though there were only two of us in the room.

Nowadays, Robert O’Bryant is obtaining an accounting degree in the Berkeley College. “We all live in a real world, man… So, I perfectly know that if I wanna treat my hobby seriously, I have to invest money in it. That’s why I need a decent job to raise money to support myself. Horses for courses”, said Robert. According to Robert, in the future he is planning to start working in the banking. He believes that this might be a good source of income, which will allow him to go on increasing his collection with expensive guitars.

Nevertheless, he perfectly understands that sometime he will have to stop increasing his collection. According to him, he won’t have enough space to fit all the instruments. I offered him that it’s possible to put some of the guitars in another room. However, he rejected my idea, asserting that “his home is not a museum”.

Regarding the future of the collection, Robert confessed to me that he has never thought what he will do with it then. “Man, I have no idea what I am gonna do with it. Maybe, I will keep it or I will donate it to a good person. Who know? … These instruments make me happy every day. So, I don’t mind if one day they will bring happiness to somebody else”, he said.

— Daniel Besedovsky
Clicks, Chicks. Dicks.

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Monday, June 1st, 2015

Fun, Love, POSHGLAM







SheKnows.com Feature: 10 Signs You Are the Crazy-Ex

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You might be justifying all of that Facebook stalking, the late-night texts, the lengthy emails and anonymous phone calls to his new girlfriend (who you’re pretty sure he met while you were still dating), but have you gone too far? Have your friends been subtly hinting that you might be heading into crazy territory?

We’re sharing 10 signs you might be “That Crazy Ex-Bitch” from SheKnows.com

1)  You think about him all the time

When you’re thinking about your ex to the extent that these thoughts are interfering with your day-to-day life, he’s become your focus, notes April Masini, author and relationship expert at AskApril.com. He shouldn’t be your focus — you should be your focus. “It’s understandable that breaking up requires a transition period, but after a few months, these thoughts should taper off, and you should focus more on what’s in front of you that’s possible, and not on what’s behind you,” she advises.

2) You still have him on Facebook, Twitter, etc.

Following a breakup, it’s a good idea to cut social media ties with an ex. If you haven’t, you’re likely still too attached. “You’re going to be tortured by his presence on your social media, especially when he starts dating,” says Masini. “You won’t be able to enjoy your social media friends and contacts when you’re always clicking on his information.”

3) You stalk him regularly on social media

As Masini tells us, keeping your ex on Facebook or similar can easily lead to stalking. The information is readily available and oh-so-tempting to pore over again and again. But, she warns that you won’t get the whole story behind the photos or the tweets, just enough to lure you in and get you addicted: “Stalking means you’ve given up your power and you’re investing it in a failed relationship.”

True story: For about six months after my last breakup, the first thing I did every morning, even before coffee, was check my ex’s Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Finally my best friend came over and deleted him from all platforms to save my sanity. I love her for it. Rochelle, 28

4) You ask his friends about him

Continuously asking his friends or your mutual friends for information about your ex is a mistake and a big step into crazy ex territory. “Before you know it, you’re going to get a reputation, and you’ll start noticing your invitations are dissipating,” says Masini. “If you can’t stop asking or wondering, make new friends who don’t know him,” she advises.

True story: I convinced myself it was better to ask about my ex than not talk about him because I thought it made me seem like I was more over it. But really I just ended up sounding like a broken record and if I’m honest, a bit of a stalker. Anonymous

5) You frequent places you might see him

Do yourself (and your dignity) a favor and stay away from places you know he’ll be. “As soon as he realizes you’re following him, or worse, showing up at his haunts before he even gets there, he’s going to eventually find new places to hang out and you’ll be out of the loop,” warns Masini. She suggests using the breakup as an opportunity to find a better gym, a better coffee shop and a better dog park.

True story: I was so intent on seeing my ex I joined his gym. Big mistake. It was so awkward every time I saw him I could never concentrate on my workouts and I quit a month later.Deanna, 25

6) You still have all the things he gave you

Still have all his stuff? It’s time to purge. “Keeping a shrine to your ex by maintaining a box of his stuff long after you’ve broken up with him is going to be weird at best, and obsessive at worst,” Masini says. It also keeps you anchored in the past. She recommends getting his stuff together and mailing it back to him, his mom or donating it to Goodwill.

7) You text and email him

Women who chase men lose out, Masini says. And guess what? Texting, emailing and calling him count as chasing him — especially when you’re initiating the chase, she explains: “I’ve heard from loads of women who justify doing this, but in the end, it catches up to them. If he’s your ex, that means he’s going to sleep with you if you make it that easy, but he’s also going to be looking for relationships and sex elsewhere, too.”

8) You’re devising plans to get back together

People do reunite, but the circumstances need to be right and both people need to be ready. But, says Masini, if he’s changed the locks, is dating someone else, and you saw them perusing rings at the mall, chances are, no matter how elaborate a plan you’ve hatched, he’s moved on: “It takes two people to get together, and one to break up.”

9) You want to sabotage his new relationship

The problem with sabotage, as tempting as it is when you find out he’s dating someone else, is that you may end up driving him further away from you and more quickly into the arms of this new person. “You’ll get a short-term boost and a long-term let down. The best revenge is living well, and that’s a fact,” says Masini. “If you really want to make him second guess himself, go have a great life and be gracious and polite.”

True story: My friends and I spent so many hours and consumed many bottles of wine, hatching schemes of sabotage to scare off my ex’s new girlfriend. We never put any into action, but I’m still embarrassed I was so intent on breaking them up. Laurel, 32

10) Your friends are sick of hearing about him

You might be hung up on your ex, but eventually your friends aren’t going to want to hear about it. “You’ll know that your friends are sick of hearing about your ex because they’ll stop calling you, the calls they do make will be shorter, and you’ll be invited out less and less,” says Masini. “You’ll start hearing about fun times you weren’t included in because they didn’t want to hear tales of woe.”

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Thursday, May 21st, 2015

Fun, On Campus, POSHGLAM







Scandalous Rules to Live By

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Wonder why the Summer break has brought forth a number of opinionated posts/non-designer editorials? Well, wonder no more: with the break in pitches and lack of PRs on hand for fact checking, we’ve decided to entertain you a bit with well, a little POSHGLAM Madness, if only just for fun.

If you happen to remember the cartoon “Recess” that came on during “One Saturday Morning” over a decade ago. The Ashleys being the characters I remember the most, they were quite “Scandalous” and in fact it was their famous moniker.

Anyway, the point of it all is: Women have a tendency to be catty and want to believe the worst about other women — hey, it’s a male dominated societe, but it’s important to minimize the drama in an effort to protect the very ideas we so dearly hold on to as women to keep our self-respect. Afterall, a woman disrespected anywhere is a threat to woman everywhere.

With that said, here are a few “Scandalous” Rules to Live By:

  1. Don’t promote “Drama” even if you think it’s true
  2. Challenge cattiness with common sense
  3. Try not to spread rumors, it’s more of a reflection of you
  4. Be careful what you believe, gullible is written on the ceiling
  5. Befriend women that don’t have many “GOOD” friends, offer advice on how to demand respect, how to avoid office politics etc
  6. Avoid diatribing — if there’s a problem with a person, talk to them immediately and assertively and diffuse it, but don’t threaten or act aggressively, which could intern put them on-guard further escalating the situation

Just a fun reminder for you guys…after all, we’re far to old for all that little girl shit!

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Saturday, May 16th, 2015

Diversity In Fashion, Fashion, Kimberly E. Stone, POSHGLAM, POSHNOIR







Editorial Prose in Lieu of Style Blogging | Or Maybe: Kimberly E. Stone, A Fashion Powerhouse

Kimberly E. StoneAnother person asked me: “Why don’t you Style Blog?”, Answer: Isn’t that fake modeling? I love emerging designers, happen to prefer them over most name brands. When I started POSHGLAM, I never considered “Fake Modeling”. Though I’ve been a signed model throughout the 10 years I’ve run the site, it just dawned on me: I don’t use my image much. There are tons of pretty girls, with NYC being the US Fashion capital and the Beauty Capital I never really considered toting a tripod and a photographer beau. Newsflash: I’m considering attending more red carpet events, debuting my likeness as more of a fashion icon. Until then, it’s me, behind the lens acting as a POWERHOUSE CEO.

Photo Credit: Seth Sabal
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Tuesday, April 21st, 2015

Love, POSHGLAM







Cribsheet for Online Dating @PlentyOfFish

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So, you want to try online dating eh (POF.com)? We should preface this article buy saying that our tips probably aren’t for you if you’re looking for a quickie shag with a relative stranger. It may be a good time, but we’ll keep our dirty nocturnal secrets to ourselves; that’s for another time and another post our friends!

For most people, finding love online is kind of like shopping at ASOS: you pretty much put every size and style in your basket and hope for the best. You may bag the most magnificent jumpsuit known to mankind which makes your ass looks amazing, or be stuck with a bunch of s**t you just don’t need in your closet (i.e. your life). Online dating has compressed the world of men into a tiny pill that can be hard to swallow (did someone say swallow?). Having dabbled in some online dating ourselves, we are here to dispense some (hopefully) helpful insight to finding true love (or at the very least, one good date) online. Behold! The WAGs guide to online dating:

Be yourself:

We don’t mean this in the generic way your grandma used to tell you when she caught you stuffing your bra age ten. We do mean be your most authentic self: whether this means not photoshopping your profile pictures to oblivion (Beyoncé’s thigh gap?), writing your profile according to what you think people want (those two packs of cigarettes in your bag doesn’t make you a light smoker) or showing up on your first date with a fabricated alter ego you think will be super awesome (when did your job as a primary school teacher become a fashion model strutting the cat walks of Milan!?). Be you! You can only live life as ‘pretend you’ for so long before the cracks will start to appear. Plus, wouldn’t it be nice (and so much easier) to be honest with a potential partner from day 1? No one likes a liar, fool!

It’s a numbers game:

Now, this may sound cynical – but the WAGs aren’t here coddle you like Julie Andrews from the Sound of Music. Now there are some lucky few out there who happen to find Mr. Right on their first date – if only the rest of us could be that lucky! Fact of the the matter is, you may think you’re a real catch and that your s**t don’t stink, but nothing good will ever happen from putting all your eggs in one basket from Date #1. Don’t be discouraged: it may take 4, 11 or 20 dates to find someone you really click with and that’s perfectly normal. Have a little faith, take that pre-date vodka shot, get that little black dress on and get your ass out there.

Don’t be nitpick:

Jason is perfect – gorgeous eyes, gorgeous bod and a killer profile. But alas…he’s a dog man and you’re considering adopting your third cat. Before you even think about tossing this guy into your e-trash, remember that you too are not perfect and might also not be every single thing someone is dreaming of. Have an open mind and remember that, like in real life, relationships are a give and take and rely on compromise. He may surprise you and be the ying to your yang or the milk to your Coco Puffs or….no more, you get the drift.

One last thing:

If, after giving it a good go, you’re just not feeling one with this whole online dating thing, don’t be afraid to admit it to yourself. It won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, and it takes courage to admit that too. Some people just prefer meeting their one and only the good ol’ fashioned way: intoxicated, sweaty and doing the robot at the office party.
May the gods of the world wide web be with you!

Contributed by the WAGs, Sophie and Aleks – Singaporean and American, two good friends with a penchant for making fools of themselves in public. Together they navigate living abroad, regularly hand out unsolicited advice on lifestyle, beauty and fashion and what it truly means to be a fabulous WAG. Check out their website, Like them on Facebook, follow them on Instagram and Twitter and watch them on YouTube

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